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When Everything Seems to be Going Wrong

The economy is in the toilet, your so called friends have disappointed you, your family doesn’t understand you, you’re worried about finding a job. Your grades are suffering- and God knows what else. Sometimes life is like that. We feel overworked and underpaid, and the stress takes a toll on our health and happiness.

Take a notice that all of your problems keep you focused on the past by dwelling by what went wrong and beating yourself up over it or worried about what may or may not happen in the future. All of this keeps you from being in the present. You cannot grow or move forward unless you are living in the moment. One of the most essential ways to stay present is to live with an attitude of gratitude.

When you arise in the morning, be grateful to be alive, be grateful for your health, for your job, and children. Be grateful for the country you live in, for the friends you have, and the family you enjoy. Literally, count your blessings every day. Sometimes a patient may tell me, “I have nothing to be thankful for. I hate this place.” I will then work with them to come up with something no matter how small. I will say something like, “Look at what a nice day it is!. It is not too hot or too cold. The sky is blue and clear” or “Hey, you’re talking to me right now. I could be off doing something else instead.” Then I get a response like, “Oh, yeah…I didn’t think about that.”


Three amazing things will happen when you are grateful. The first is that you will actually become more grateful. You will start to realize that, despite the trials of everyday life, you are, in fact, blessed. The irony is that the more things you realize you have to be grateful for, the more grateful you become for other things. It is like a snowball rolling down a hill. The gratitude becomes overwhelming.

The second thing that will happen is that more good fortune and opportunities will begin to come your way. I don’t pretend to understand why this happens, I just know it does. Those who are grateful just seem to attract more and more good things.

And the third thing that will happen is that you will feel great – healthier and more energetic than you have in years!

The stressors in our life are not likely to go away. What we need to do is learn to control our response to them by living with an attitude of gratitude. As motivational speaker Jim Rohn has often said, “The same wind blows on us all; it is the set of our sail that makes us who we are.” 


To A Life Worth Living,


Foresteen Forbes, Psy. D.


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