A Safe Place for Cutters Blog

July 22, 2009, 05:00
Filed under: Borderline Personality Disorder, Coping Skills, self-harm, Tools

Nia Misses from Toronto, ON and a member of my Facebook group The Cutters Safe Place* says that she often feels like she is drowning in the seductive urge to cut hrself. She claims that she finds the 15 Minute Rule helpful for such torrid moments.
She explains, “You tell yourself that you can cut, only if you wait fifteen minutes.
If you wait fifteen minutes, you have to wait another fifteen, just to see how long you can suppress the urge”. She finds that typically, after the first 15 minutes, the urge is gone and adds, “The things that you do to distract yourself from cutting in that 15 minutes tend to also help you get rid of the drowning feeling”.

Nia illustrates her use of 15 Minute Rule by explaining that she had gotten herself addicted to reality TV and using this to occupy herself during the !5 minutes. She has her favorite reality show on her Ipod as well as on DVD so that any time that she wants to cut, she is close by to something that will play an episode for her. She then stops feeling like she drowning, and stops wanting to cut, and then starts YELLING at the Survivors.

Yelling at TV

This is a good use of the Distraction technique that I discussed in an earlier blog.

To A Life Worth Living,

Foresteen Forbes, Psy. D.

*If you would like to be a member of my Facebook group “The Safe Place for Cutters,” please find me on Facebook and invite me to be your friend. Click here!


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