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The Insidiousness of Negative Thinking
March 22, 2009, 23:09
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Negative thinking is the first of the three mortal mistakes that I spoke of last week that cutters make followed by isolation and the  feeling that one is a victim.

Negative thinking is rather insidious in that it often feels normal and justified. Negative thinking by the way, is a major contributing factor to depression. Depressed people feel that their negative thoughts are accurate and therefore have the right to nurse their destructive thoughts. And they are correct! They indeed may have had a dismal childhood, there is lot of poverty in the world, the economy is not doing well, etc.  Negative thinking is like a car stuck in the mud. The more the driver tries to drive the car out of the ooze, the more the tires just spin and dig in deeper into the muck.

There are two ways to look at the world: the benevolent way and the malevolent way. People with a benevolent or positive worldview see the world around them as filled with opportunities and possibilities. And they are also correct! They believe that everything happens as part of a great process designed to make them successful and happy. They approach their lives, their work, and their relationships with optimism, cheerfulness, and a general attitude of positive expectations. They expect a lot, and they are seldom disappointed.

What you focus on expands. The more you think negative thoughts the more you feed your destructive self. Health, happiness, abundance and peace of mind are natural states of being once you break the bonds of negative thinking. The fact is that negativity is always there, acting as a resistive force. Negative thinking encourages us NOT to upset the status quo. It immobilizes us with fear of the unknown. It reminds us how much easier and more comfortable we will be if we remain with our old familiar routine. It causes us to want to survive rather than succeed.

Let’s face it. When you cut you are thinking negative thoughts. So how do you change that? It starts with not being so hard on yourself. More about that later.

To a life worth living,

Foresteen Forbes, Psy. D.

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